Transitions are rough, man. I've got 3 more weeks in Arkansas, and I feel like I'm slowly losing my mind. There are so many thoughts and feelings floating inside me and I can't seem to identify all of them. Here are a few:
-I'm sad & guilty to be leaving. I don't want to be just one more person that floats in and out of my kids' lives. I love my school and my kids. I'll miss them.
-I'm eagerly anticipating the end of the school year (understatement), but I'm reeling that it's actually almost over.
-I love my kids so much. I can't believe how much.
-I'm vaguely looking forward to moving back to California -- I know it will be amazing -- but the prospect of moving to yet another new place and making all new friends and building my life all over again is tiring right now. I'm not exactly intimidated -- I've moved before, and I can re-build my life -- it just sounds tiring right now.
-I can't believe how little money I have and, surprise surprise, I'm stressed out about paying for my trip back.
-I'm proud of myself for (almost) finishing TFA and having a relatively successful first two years of teaching.
-I'm still heartbroken that Finnick dies in Mockingjay. I'd never thought that anything would come close to the heartbreak of losing Mufasa in the Lion King, but this does.
-I'm glad to be a part of the teaching profession.
-I'm frustrated at how little teachers make, and I wonder if teaching is financially viable for me next year.
-I'm amazed at Nelson Mandela's nobility. Just finished his autobiography.
-I've had the compulsive need to ruthlessly get rid of stuff in the last few days. I filled 2 trash bags yesterday.
-I'm grateful for books that allow me to escape reality.
-I'm anxious about the backlash from the yearbooks, which we handed out today.
-I feel tense at trying to maintain the balance between a healthy end-of-the-year relaxed classroom and still teaching the children something.
Bottom line, I thought I'd be more invigorated at the end of TFA. Maybe I will be when I have a better idea of what my new life will look like.
Okay, back to distracting myself. That's enough thinking for now.
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Monday, February 13, 2012
resilience
TFA has a few essential qualities that they look for in prospective CMs, and I memorized them when I was interviewing (yes, I did — see my “applying?” page for how ridiculously over-prepared I was for my interview). I don’t remember them any more, but I think that TFA should definitely add resilience to its list of essential qualities.
In the weeks since Christmas break, my own resilience has been tested.
In this job, you will get knocked on your face. No matter how prepared you are, you’re still dealing with 27 warm-blooded, wonderful little time bombs. They will drive you crazy, and the best you can do sometimes is just ride it out. Roll with it. The thing with TFA is that they program you (even if you resist) to ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS assume that anything that goes wrong is somehow your fault, or that you should have done something differently.
So say, for example, you have a bad day. A bad day of teaching results in a myriad of symptoms.
Physically, once the adrenaline wears off, there is the headache, mind-numbing exhaustion, and scratchy throat at bare minimum. You’re really fighting the urge to curl up under your desk and suck your thumb.
Your mind is still racing, and you’re analyzing and re-analyzing every facet of a particular class period or interaction. You’re thinking of all that you have to do that day and your car insurance that’s about to expire and how you should really start eating real food and wondering which credit card you haven’t maxed out yet and longing for summer, all of this while trying to plan for the next day.
You look haggard.
Emotionally, you’re experiencing so many things that you can’t name them all. You feel infuriated on behalf of your students and on behalf of yourself.
Some days it’s “They don’t deserve this!” and some days it’s “I don’t deserve this!”. There are really a lot of things to be infuriated about, and when your body is in its weakened state, your mind really goes to town.
You start to think about how, despite the fact that you work three times as hard as people in other jobs, you make one third their salary.
You think about how the paper mill in your town is polluting the air and making everyone, including you, unwell.
You think about all of the ridiculous hoops teachers have to jump through that interfere with their job.
You think about how much of your own already-scarce money you have to spend on your own classroom.
You think about your kids’ families, and the systems that have put them down and kept them down.
You think about how incompetent you feel 95% of the time.
You think about how your personal life is put on the back burner, and how easy it is to neglect your own health.
You think about how some of your boys have no idea how to treat women, and how it’s because they have no male role models.
You think about how some of your girls have no idea how they should be treated either, and how hard you have to work to convince them that they have value.
After all this thinking and even more of a headache, you come to the tired realization that it’s not fair.
And maybe that’s the point. We are choosing to leave a situation where we could be paid a salary we deserved for working reasonable hours. We’re choosing to count ourselves with those who are already being treated unfairly every day of their lives.
We’re giving up our “rights” in a lot of ways to help those who have their God-given rights stripped from them by a system that they were born into.
I’ve come to this conclusion so many times after a rough day, and it doesn’t get any easier to swallow.
After your tired realization that it’s not fair, though, you do the important thing.
You move on.
That’s where this resilience thing comes in, I think. You work and work, and if it were a sports movie and the outcome was based on your effort, you would win the game.
But let’s face it, you’re an inexperienced, poorly-trained first-year teacher who was in college this time last year. You have very little content knowledge of your subject area, and you live 2,000 miles away from your family and closest friends. You’re also doing an incredibly difficult job in an incredibly difficult situation.
Of course you’re going to get knocked on your face. The key is what you do while you’re lying there on the ground. In my life, resilience has come to mean having the courage to just do the next thing. Just do the next thing. Baby steps. Acknowledge that it’s not fair, but then move on.
What’s funny is that even when my students are ungrateful or rude to me, I can’t blame them. I can fight for them, though. Granted, some of them do need to be taken down a peg, but for the most part they are like little puppies who just need someone to love them and push them and fight for them.
So when you’re curled up in a fetal position underneath your desk, or hitting the snooze button for the fourth time, resilience is getting over yourself for a second and thinking about them. Resilience is also stopping to take care of yourself so that your students will have a sane, mentally healthy person who wants to be in the room with them.
I titled this blog from a phrase I read in a book about Abraham Lincoln, one of my FAVORITE PEOPLE EVER. The book was called Lincoln’s Melancholy, and it was all about his struggle with depression and the ground-breaking way he dealt with it. The author says
What distinguished Lincoln was his willingness to cry out to the heavens in pain and despair, and then turn, humbly and determinedly, to the work that lay before him.
This is resilience to me. Acknowledging what we’re up against, but then moving on and choosing to get back up and finish that powerpoint or grade those papers.
Because, after all is said and done, it’s not about us at all.
In the weeks since Christmas break, my own resilience has been tested.
In this job, you will get knocked on your face. No matter how prepared you are, you’re still dealing with 27 warm-blooded, wonderful little time bombs. They will drive you crazy, and the best you can do sometimes is just ride it out. Roll with it. The thing with TFA is that they program you (even if you resist) to ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS assume that anything that goes wrong is somehow your fault, or that you should have done something differently.
So say, for example, you have a bad day. A bad day of teaching results in a myriad of symptoms.
Physically, once the adrenaline wears off, there is the headache, mind-numbing exhaustion, and scratchy throat at bare minimum. You’re really fighting the urge to curl up under your desk and suck your thumb.
Your mind is still racing, and you’re analyzing and re-analyzing every facet of a particular class period or interaction. You’re thinking of all that you have to do that day and your car insurance that’s about to expire and how you should really start eating real food and wondering which credit card you haven’t maxed out yet and longing for summer, all of this while trying to plan for the next day.
You look haggard.
Emotionally, you’re experiencing so many things that you can’t name them all. You feel infuriated on behalf of your students and on behalf of yourself.
Some days it’s “They don’t deserve this!” and some days it’s “I don’t deserve this!”. There are really a lot of things to be infuriated about, and when your body is in its weakened state, your mind really goes to town.
You start to think about how, despite the fact that you work three times as hard as people in other jobs, you make one third their salary.
You think about how the paper mill in your town is polluting the air and making everyone, including you, unwell.
You think about all of the ridiculous hoops teachers have to jump through that interfere with their job.
You think about how much of your own already-scarce money you have to spend on your own classroom.
You think about your kids’ families, and the systems that have put them down and kept them down.
You think about how incompetent you feel 95% of the time.
You think about how your personal life is put on the back burner, and how easy it is to neglect your own health.
You think about how some of your boys have no idea how to treat women, and how it’s because they have no male role models.
You think about how some of your girls have no idea how they should be treated either, and how hard you have to work to convince them that they have value.
After all this thinking and even more of a headache, you come to the tired realization that it’s not fair.
And maybe that’s the point. We are choosing to leave a situation where we could be paid a salary we deserved for working reasonable hours. We’re choosing to count ourselves with those who are already being treated unfairly every day of their lives.
We’re giving up our “rights” in a lot of ways to help those who have their God-given rights stripped from them by a system that they were born into.
I’ve come to this conclusion so many times after a rough day, and it doesn’t get any easier to swallow.
After your tired realization that it’s not fair, though, you do the important thing.
You move on.
That’s where this resilience thing comes in, I think. You work and work, and if it were a sports movie and the outcome was based on your effort, you would win the game.
But let’s face it, you’re an inexperienced, poorly-trained first-year teacher who was in college this time last year. You have very little content knowledge of your subject area, and you live 2,000 miles away from your family and closest friends. You’re also doing an incredibly difficult job in an incredibly difficult situation.
Of course you’re going to get knocked on your face. The key is what you do while you’re lying there on the ground. In my life, resilience has come to mean having the courage to just do the next thing. Just do the next thing. Baby steps. Acknowledge that it’s not fair, but then move on.
What’s funny is that even when my students are ungrateful or rude to me, I can’t blame them. I can fight for them, though. Granted, some of them do need to be taken down a peg, but for the most part they are like little puppies who just need someone to love them and push them and fight for them.
So when you’re curled up in a fetal position underneath your desk, or hitting the snooze button for the fourth time, resilience is getting over yourself for a second and thinking about them. Resilience is also stopping to take care of yourself so that your students will have a sane, mentally healthy person who wants to be in the room with them.
I titled this blog from a phrase I read in a book about Abraham Lincoln, one of my FAVORITE PEOPLE EVER. The book was called Lincoln’s Melancholy, and it was all about his struggle with depression and the ground-breaking way he dealt with it. The author says
What distinguished Lincoln was his willingness to cry out to the heavens in pain and despair, and then turn, humbly and determinedly, to the work that lay before him.
This is resilience to me. Acknowledging what we’re up against, but then moving on and choosing to get back up and finish that powerpoint or grade those papers.
Because, after all is said and done, it’s not about us at all.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
come on, come on, come on to the future
Well, here I stand, 2 days before the beginning of spring semester and recently returned from 9 glorious days in California. The time with my family was glorious, as always, and I didn’t really do much. I had a head cold the entire time, so it was a nice excuse to lay around as much as I wanted to. Highlights include seeing South Coast Repertory’s production of “A Christmas Carol” (a MUST if you’re ever in Orange County around the holidays) and bawling my eyes out, surfing with my family at Newport Beach on Christmas day, and eating Chipotle and In-n-Out like it was my job.
Now that I’m back in southern Arkansas, my attitude towards being here and towards teaching in general has gone up and down like a yo-yo. One minute I’m feeling good about teaching, and the next I’m wondering what I’m earth I’m doing here and why I ever wanted to be a teacher. My attitude is mostly good, but I have my moments.
I’m trying to get over the jet lag as fast as possible, but I’m still tired and feel kind of “off”. This is one of the many reasons I returned to Arkansas a week early instead of staying in California until the last minute.
I’m spending these last few days cleaning out my classroom, putting up twinkly lights, and re-organizing everything. I’m re-reading the First Days of School and hopefully I’ll be implementing more procedures in my class this semester. One thing I really want to do this semester is have a consistent format for class; I want my kids to know exactly what’s going to happen and exactly what’s expected of them during each part of class.
Big surprise, I’m having problems with money again. I spent a lot of money travelling to and from California, and my debt just keeps growing and growing. Meanwhile I’m here in southern Arkansas, and there are lots of things I need/want for my classroom and my house that would make my life a lot easier. I’m so frustrated that to be an effective teacher in my situation, I basically have to spend money out of my own pocket.
I’m optimistic about this semester. I think it’s going to be a lot better.
Now that I’m back in southern Arkansas, my attitude towards being here and towards teaching in general has gone up and down like a yo-yo. One minute I’m feeling good about teaching, and the next I’m wondering what I’m earth I’m doing here and why I ever wanted to be a teacher. My attitude is mostly good, but I have my moments.
I’m trying to get over the jet lag as fast as possible, but I’m still tired and feel kind of “off”. This is one of the many reasons I returned to Arkansas a week early instead of staying in California until the last minute.
I’m spending these last few days cleaning out my classroom, putting up twinkly lights, and re-organizing everything. I’m re-reading the First Days of School and hopefully I’ll be implementing more procedures in my class this semester. One thing I really want to do this semester is have a consistent format for class; I want my kids to know exactly what’s going to happen and exactly what’s expected of them during each part of class.
Big surprise, I’m having problems with money again. I spent a lot of money travelling to and from California, and my debt just keeps growing and growing. Meanwhile I’m here in southern Arkansas, and there are lots of things I need/want for my classroom and my house that would make my life a lot easier. I’m so frustrated that to be an effective teacher in my situation, I basically have to spend money out of my own pocket.
I’m optimistic about this semester. I think it’s going to be a lot better.
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
telling the truth
Thanksgiving break was GLORIOUS. It was so nice to be home in sunny California and see my family for the first time since the end of May. Coming back was very difficult, though. It’s amazing how in one week you can forget all of the good things about your life and only remember the bad.
All of the conversations I had with family, friends, and semi-strangers last week went something like this.
“So, you’re a teacher now?”
“Yes.” [I fought the urge to say "ma'am" about half the time]
“And you live in southern Arkansas?”
…we go on to talk about latent racism, the achievement gap, etc…
“Wow, it’s really like that?”
“Yes, it is.”
“Well, what you’re doing is really admirable.”
Thanks, I guess? That doesn’t make it easier to go back and face reality, though. I’ve been reading Lies My Teacher Told Me. Highly recommended, but very depressing. It basically explains how everything we learned in history class was complete propaganda. The author writes a whole chapter about the misconceptions Americans choose to have about the explorers, especially Columbus. I thought it was relevant to read on Thanksgiving week, and I started to think the denial our society lives in all the time.
People just pretend that since the Civil Rights Movement, racism is over and everything’s all hunky dory now. And people pretend that the Thanksgiving feast is a representation of the pilgrims and the Native Americans and the actual relationship they had. I know I’m guilty of this too, but it seems that people would rather pretend that something doesn’t exist — that way they don’t have to do anything about it. And if they pretend for long enough, then they start to really believe that segregation, for example, is a thing of the past.
It’s sad that I had to convince so many people of a reality that slaps me across the face every day. Talking about it, though, reminded me of why I’m here. I realized that it is November, and according to the month-by-month mood swing calendar in See Me After Class, this is Disillusionment Month. I have become pretty disillusioned. A lot of my idealism has worn off with months of hard work yielding seemingly spare results.
I remembered that I am here for a reason, and I do think that I can empower my students and (hopefully) help them treat each other with more respect. I don’t think I’ll be changing national statistics any time soon, but I’ll do what I can.
This semester hasn’t been that bad, truly. But the next 3 weeks might be rough. Other teachers have told me that the weeks before Christmas break are rough because the kids are just done and you are too. So I’m trying to let go of control and just ride it out.
With the coming of Christmas and the advent season comes the reminder of the Incarnation, and how it changed human history forever. I don’t want to get too preachy, but I’m reminded every year around this time that Jesus saves, and we are to manifest His reign here on earth. And as I try to treat my students as He would treat them, I’m reminded that He’s the only one I’m trying to please after all, so I don’t have to worry about pleasing everyone.
Truly He taught us to love one another,
His law is love and His gospel is peace
Chains shall He break, for the slave is our brother,
And in His name all oppression shall cease.
Such beautiful words. I’m resisting the urge to get a Sharpie and scrawl them all over my bedroom wall.
I have “And in His name” written on my forearm, reminding me that I’m taking part in ending the oppression that so many Americans choose to ignore.
I’m also very excited to see my kids tomorrow .
All of the conversations I had with family, friends, and semi-strangers last week went something like this.
“So, you’re a teacher now?”
“Yes.” [I fought the urge to say "ma'am" about half the time]
“And you live in southern Arkansas?”
…we go on to talk about latent racism, the achievement gap, etc…
“Wow, it’s really like that?”
“Yes, it is.”
“Well, what you’re doing is really admirable.”
Thanks, I guess? That doesn’t make it easier to go back and face reality, though. I’ve been reading Lies My Teacher Told Me. Highly recommended, but very depressing. It basically explains how everything we learned in history class was complete propaganda. The author writes a whole chapter about the misconceptions Americans choose to have about the explorers, especially Columbus. I thought it was relevant to read on Thanksgiving week, and I started to think the denial our society lives in all the time.
People just pretend that since the Civil Rights Movement, racism is over and everything’s all hunky dory now. And people pretend that the Thanksgiving feast is a representation of the pilgrims and the Native Americans and the actual relationship they had. I know I’m guilty of this too, but it seems that people would rather pretend that something doesn’t exist — that way they don’t have to do anything about it. And if they pretend for long enough, then they start to really believe that segregation, for example, is a thing of the past.
It’s sad that I had to convince so many people of a reality that slaps me across the face every day. Talking about it, though, reminded me of why I’m here. I realized that it is November, and according to the month-by-month mood swing calendar in See Me After Class, this is Disillusionment Month. I have become pretty disillusioned. A lot of my idealism has worn off with months of hard work yielding seemingly spare results.
I remembered that I am here for a reason, and I do think that I can empower my students and (hopefully) help them treat each other with more respect. I don’t think I’ll be changing national statistics any time soon, but I’ll do what I can.
This semester hasn’t been that bad, truly. But the next 3 weeks might be rough. Other teachers have told me that the weeks before Christmas break are rough because the kids are just done and you are too. So I’m trying to let go of control and just ride it out.
With the coming of Christmas and the advent season comes the reminder of the Incarnation, and how it changed human history forever. I don’t want to get too preachy, but I’m reminded every year around this time that Jesus saves, and we are to manifest His reign here on earth. And as I try to treat my students as He would treat them, I’m reminded that He’s the only one I’m trying to please after all, so I don’t have to worry about pleasing everyone.
Truly He taught us to love one another,
His law is love and His gospel is peace
Chains shall He break, for the slave is our brother,
And in His name all oppression shall cease.
Such beautiful words. I’m resisting the urge to get a Sharpie and scrawl them all over my bedroom wall.
I have “And in His name” written on my forearm, reminding me that I’m taking part in ending the oppression that so many Americans choose to ignore.
I’m also very excited to see my kids tomorrow .
Sunday, June 19, 2011
the new civil rights movement.
Taken from a good friend of mine.
A local resident asked us what we were doing here in small town Mississippi and when we explained Teach for America, he said “We haven’t seen a youth movement like this, with your joy and energy, since the 60’s.”
overwhelmed with our potential.
A local resident asked us what we were doing here in small town Mississippi and when we explained Teach for America, he said “We haven’t seen a youth movement like this, with your joy and energy, since the 60’s.”
overwhelmed with our potential.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
applying to Teach For America?
on my way to my final interview!!!
The application for TFA is no laughing matter – it’s a months-long process, with lots of anxiety and impatience. But it’s well worth it.
My tips for you:
Before the application:
-read the website, and make sure you’re on board with what TFA stands for
-work on a draft of your resume. Try to keep it one page, talking about your leadership experiences, academic achievements, and extracurriculars. They have sample resumes posted on TFA’s website – I just followed the format of that one.
-work on a draft of your letter of intent. It’s supposed to be under 500 words. I wrote several (8) drafts before I found one that was half decent.
-make sure you have your SAT scores and grades handy; you’ll need them
Written application:
-have other people read your resume & letter of intent
-be consistent throughout the whole application – you’ll be asked about it during all stages of the application process
-check and double-check everything you write, just in case
Phone interview:
-RELAX; my interviewer was SUPER nice, and it felt like a conversation more than an interview
-be ready to talk about every item you’ve listed on your resume
-have responses in mind for the standard job interview questions about yourself – strengths & weaknesses, etc.
-if they don’t call you at your appointed time, don’t freak out – just email admissions and they’ll take care of it. This happened to me twice!
-have a big window of time open before and after your interview, so you’re not flustered
-have a thought-out question to ask at the end, if you want.
final interview:
**order your transcripts early! If you don’t, you’ll only have about 2 weeks to get them in, which could be nerve-wracking**
* make sure you force yourself to eat beforehand, even if you feel too nervous to eat! The nerves will eventually wear of, and it’ll be hard to think when you’re starving!
Lesson plan:
Make sure you:
-can do your setup in one minute, including writing your name, the grade level, the subject, and the objective of the lesson. I had to practice this several times before I could write fast enough.
-TIME YOURSELF. It seems obvious, but it’s really important. Now matter how awesome your lesson is, it makes you look really bad if you go over time. 5 minutes goes by fast – try to make sure you can get through your lesson plan in 4 ½, just to be safe. They’re really strict on time – 5 minutes isn’t just an approximate estimate.
-make sure everything in the lesson is age-appropriate and realistically feasible in the classroom setting
-have a very specific, measurable objective
-be familiar with what they’re looking for in a lesson plan (I highly recommend reading teaching as leadership)
-practice your lesson plan in front of other people – they’ll spot things that you won’t
-get comfortable with your props, and make sure they work. -Don’t rely too much on technology.
-practice it over and over and over again. I did at least 3x a day in the weeks leading up to my interview, and each time I did it, I grew more and more comfortable.
Group problem-solving activity: Don’t freak out too much if you don’t say a lot – just make sure you get a few good points in, and tie in the articles if you can.
Written activity: take your time and answer carefully.
Personal interview: be ready to answer the standard job interview questions, and be ready to talk about everything on your resume. Don’t be surprised if they ask about the same things that your phone interviewer asked for. Make sure you frame your answers in a way that shows that you have the 7 qualities that they look for in a candidate – that’s what they’re looking for out of you during the whole interview. What helped me also was having some ideas of specific things I wanted to do in my classroom.
What I did to prepare (besides what TFA explicitly told me to do):
-read Teaching as Leadership (and the articles, obviously)
-arranged to miss class on the day of my interview (it was ALL DAY)
-ordered and uploaded my transcripts
-submitted my placement preferences
-read through the state standards for first grade and decided on something to teach on (you can pick any grade. It just looks really good if you have an objective that’s specifically aligned to the state standards)
-researched age-appropriate vocabulary/activities
-re-read TFA’s mission, etc. on the website
-wrote a page on how I embodied each of the qualities they’re looking for:
-critical thinking skills
-leadership & achievement
-ability to influence and motivate others
-perseverance in the face of challenges
-organizational ability
-respect for students and families in low-income communities
-desire to work relentlessly in pursuit of TFA’s mission
(I made up an acronym, LAPCROW, so that I could remember/keep them in mind)
-made sure I had specific examples from my recent past of each quality
Obviously you don’t have to do all this – I’m just listing things that helped me in my application process.
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